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VOLANTHEVIST VIA GETTY IMAGES By Andrew Shatté So many of us are bogged down in stress and worry. In fact, 80 percent of Americans report feeling stressed out almost every day. We stew over our finances, relationships, jobs, children, and health. And while it’s normal to worry a bit—we aren’t robots, after all—ongoing, constant worry distracts and […]

By Karyn Hall, PHD One of the skills a young child must learn is to comfort himself when he is upset. One way he learns to do this is by being soothed by his parents or caregivers. Touch and holding are two ways caregivers comfort children. Gradually the child learns ways to calm himself. These activities

By Karyn Hall PhD Amy’s just got a promotion, Jill is going to Europe for a month, and Larry just lost 20 pounds and looks so fit he could be a trainer. When you look at what is happening in the lives of your friends, do you congratulate them and feel happy for them? Or

By Karyn Hall, Ph.D Marsha Linehan, Ph.D., from the treatment creator of Dialectical Behavior Therapy, identified six levels of validation and noted that she believes it is impossible to overestimate the importance of validation. If you care about someone who is emotionally sensitive, validation is one of the most important and effective skills you can learn.

By Margarita Tartakovsky, M.S.   Associate Editor Dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) is a highly effective type of cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), originally created to treat borderline personality disorder. Today, it’s used to treat a variety of conditions, such as bipolardisorder, eating disorders and depression. DBT teaches clients four sets of behavioral skills: mindfulness; distress tolerance; interpersonal effectiveness; and emotion regulation. But, whether you have a mental illness or

Self-care requires the discipline to do the hard and boring things that are good for us. Photo by Bruno Nascimento on Unsplash. Tami Forman ,  WOMEN@FORBES The way self-care is portrayed today is completely and utterly backward. First, self-care as a concept is almost exclusively aimed at women (generally wealthy white women who can afford the goods and

By Joan Swart Psy.D Emotion regulation means that a person is able to respond in a socially appropriate way to external stimuli. Depending on the situation, he or she has to be flexible enough to allow or avoid an instinctive reaction. A lack of emotion regulation often emerges in childhood and is associated with psychological

By Laura Chang, M.A. LPC Emotion regulation skills allow us to effectively cope with our emotional reactions.  While we cannot always maintain control over what we feel, we have total control over how we choose to respond to those feelings.  The first step to gaining greater control over your emotions begins with learning how to recognize emotions

By Szymon Pelechowicz “ You’ll never change your life until you change something you do daily. The secret of your success if found in your daily routine.” ~John C. Maxwell We all have bad habits. The problem is that many of our habits are so deeply ingrained that we don’t even notice them anymore. If we do,

Children learn more from what you do than what you say, so your resilience—the way they watch you approach adversity—affects theirs. Explore these mindful strategies for building awareness around challenging experiences. By Mark Bertin